have you ever looked at your life as a story? as a book that only you can write. lately, ok this past year has been a true eye opener to me. I have made some changes that have rewritten my story. it's ok to make the changes. sometimes if you don't, you may get stuck in a chapter that is not healthy for you. you may get stuck in a place that seems too familiar and that it's time to turn the page.
this year i took a look in the mirror. i started not liking who i had become. who i was changing into. yet, it was ok. it was comfortable and i could handle it. at least that is what i thought. i thought everything was fine. i thought everything was O.K. it wasn't, i noticed i put on my mask again and just stayed in a place that was "comfortable". who was it comfortable for? me? my family? my friends? i thought so. i thought all was well. little did i know that a part of my story was ending. apart of the life i had written was starting to fade and the pages weren't making sense.
this chapter of my life that i had known for 5 years was ending. no re-do or trying to write a new path for this chapter, just ending. how could this be happening? how could this be HAPPENING?! i thought all was well. i had my eyes close to what i knew and forgot to look at each day anew. then someone else wrote a chapter i wasn't paying attention too. i feel as though i was blindsided by what was happening. i feel like there were no answers to my questions. i felt that it wasn't gong to change or i wasn't going to be able to rewrite the story.
with that being said, i knew this chapter of my life was now over. how could it be? how could i not have noticed? how could i have been so "blind" to what was right in front of me. maybe sometimes when you are in love you don't want to see all the writing on the wall. all the writing that could take it all away. my heart now was shattered and it was tested, again.
i am not afraid, i am not ashamed and i am daily reminding myself...it's not all my fault. how can it be? i know nothing of to why it is ending. when one person is willing to move forward to change the past and the other just wants to start over, there is no way to be on the same page. the story, the chapter can not be written. you have to take a closer look at what will be written now. how will it end and what steps will be taken to close this chapter and start again.
i have finally accepted that this chapter is over. that i can not change others and even though i would do whatever it took to keep the story going and alive, it takes two for this chapter to be written.
so how do i start this new chapter? how do i pick up the pieces when the pages have now been ripped apart? how do i begin to heal so i can write?
just that... pick up a pen (or computer) and begin!