Monday, December 14, 2009

sticks & stones...

**special warning**
before you read this please forgive me if i may hurt anyones feelings.  that is not my intention at all!  i write these words to let others know how harmful it is when you say bad things to others.  as we teach others, our children and ourselves please remember names DO hurt as well as sticks and stones.  if you choose not to read any further, i totally understand.  it's not like i would know anyways.  i just feel this is what i really need to get off my mind today.

"sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me."
i often wondered why it is that someone has to put someone else down to feel good about themselves. why they have to lash out, say bad names and curse.
is this to make them feel better?
is it so they can feel powerful?
is it because they know how the other person will feel?
is it to make a point?
i'm not sure at all why one would do this. all i know is when it happens to me, i have to remember...
 what someone else says or thinks of me is none of MY business.
what they feel they need to do is only to make them feel good.
it's sad, it truly is.
you know bones heal, but names haunt you. they make you doubt yourself, wonder what you may have done to deserve the name calling, it makes you wonder the truthfulness of the calling.

i know that i am only accountable for me. that it is also my job to TEACH my children how hurtful this is. to teach them that it's NOT nice to call names, make fun of others or pick fights. it's truly sad when all of this comes from adults and they feel the need to put others down.
shame on YOU!!
what a poor excuse of an example you are. may you NEVER have someone knock you down or your children.  as that would be the true sadness.
words DO hurt people!


Jeanneoli said...

I am so sorry that someone has hurt you so badly!!

Tammy said...

Totally agree..words definitely hurt. I am sorry that you had this happen to you!